I have always been that person who was afraid to confront anyone, if someone treated me unfairly instead of speaking up I would distance myself from the person and limit our interactions. And boy has it worked for me, that meant I never had to confront anyone. This brought me a tiny bit of peace but it meant I was suppressing my voice and not being heard and that is no way to live – frustrated with a lot of internal dialogues on how I should have handled a situation differently. I blame it on my introvertedness, it meant I was afraid to put on my Big girl panties and face situations head on.
I am now a young professional who is busy building a career in a workplace that is competitive, loud, filled with bullying and egos flying high. I will admit now that there were times I would go in the bathroom and bawl my eyes out after a disagreement with someone.
That was then, yesterday I found myself in a situation were I had to decide from one of the following:
- Allow myself to be walked over,
- Keep quiet and limit my interaction with the person
- Put on my Big Girl Panties and stand up for myself for the first time.
After a few tears and a lot of prayers I chose to stand up for myself and protect me for the first time and man do I feel good. I learned to defend myself in a non confrontational manner so I still reserved my energy. I stood by my truth today and I could not be any prouder.