I use to be that person who would take things so personal that when someone says something unpleasant I would ponder on those words for days. Those were my exhausting days. I would literary meditate on the person’s poison until it became my reality. As you can imagine it can be very draining and yes I was extremely unhappy. I don’t know were I picked up such a draining habit but this was my life for years until I read Don Ruiz Miguel’s The Four Agreements and Joyce Meyer’s Battlefield of the Mind.
Guard and protect yourself from anything that is not uplifting, positive or peaceful.
I learned to stop taking things personal and to stop internalizing other people’s poison (words). I learned that what other people say or act towards me has nothing to do with me, and I have to protect my mind from external factors that are not there to uplift me, bring me joy or leave me with peace of mind.