We live in a world that demands so much from individuals. And all this pressure can leave one feeling that you need to be a ‘certain’ way in order for you to fit in this world. It is the pressure to look a certain way, act a certain way or to have certain things. I recently had a chat with a friend who was telling me about how she feels so drained because she has had three different relationships in the past 12 months with three different guys. She felt like because she is in her early twenties a recent graduate who is just starting to build a career for herself she needs to have a guy in her life to complete her.
This got me thinking, as much as my friend like everybody on this planet wants someone to love and be loved at the same time I believe this is not the right way of going about it. I believe sometimes we look for external things to make us feel like we are enough, this can include trying to please people, doing things we are not suppose to do like abusing alcohol and drugs. There are so many examples I can give of what people do to make themselves feel like they are enough. But one sad reality is this are temporary ‘fixes’ and once it wears off, like a drug addicted you need to load up on whatever your drug is. This is a vicious cycle that doesn’t end until you realize one thing. YOU ARE ENOUNG AS YOU ARE RIGHT NOW.
We need to stop listening to what the world says about us and start believing what the One who created us says about us. Yes you might not have long legs or be as smart as your sibling but whatever you have is enough for you and that’s what you are suppose to have at that time. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you should not aim for that managerial job when all you are now is a clerk. Whatever dream you have in your heart you must work hard to achieve. What I’m referring to here having a feeling of wanting to change yourself because you feel you are less of a person compared to the next person and then you end up doing things that take away your peace just to feel good about yourself.
The fact that you woke up this morning is good enough reason to make you feel good about yourself. Don’t let the world tell you your worth and look for acceptance from it. Because all you need to do to be happy is to accept that you are indeed ENOUGH. So go ahead and give yourself a big hug and tell yourself that you are ENOUGH. To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself – Thich Nhat Hanh.